everyone wants to be found

There's a line in the film Lost in Translation that I carry around with me wherever I go, or when I'm indecisive, or discontent, or staring up at the ceiling from a hotel bed, or staring at the stars. "Does it get any easier?" "No. Yes. The more you know what you want, the less you let things upset you."

I was thinking of ways I could feel less disappointed at the status quo, of societies standards and sterotypes that are increasingly disatisfying. Like when a certain person seemed to imply that people don't make a real effort to spend time with someone of the opposite gender simply just for platonic friendship (really lame), and seeing soon after, that our friendship is almost entirely obsolete once he found a mutual romantic interest. While not long before, he initiated the facade himself, of wanting to get to know me, if only for (how i interpreted it) "friendship", that in itself surely would have sufficed, but now is meaningless. And also the fact that I am addicted to watching an empty-headed tv show, that seems to show its profundity of love, by saying, literally, "true-love" is finding someone who can make your palms sweat.

Feist has a song called "Family" -- and the chorus repeats over and over It's cool to love your family, it's cool to love your family, I know because I love them more and more. The verses are rather despondent, talking mostly of loss, but they seem to elevate a deep respect, and a deep love, one that took choice and commitment, promise, and responsibility. The kind I choose and would be honored to engage in.